Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Thursday, December 24, 2020

Do you have a hateful child?

 Do you have a child that is very different from the rest of your children? You know the one who you try to make happy and all they do it find something to complain about. Well I have one. We have 6 children and not one of the other children complained about almost everything they were given. From food, clothes, shelter, gifts, friends, family members, siblings, to us being her parents. 

She has never made friends easily or kept them very long, she finds fault in everything while as an adult you can see it is her that is at fault. It really is sad. It is not that we don't love her because we do. We are worried about how she will do when she is out on her own in the world. 

Take for instance this Christmas. She looked at her pile and then at her sister's. There are just two of them left in the home now. She said it seems like everytime I was bad you bought my sister another present. Funny thing is, is that I was thinking the very same thing the night before. Maybe subconsciously I did. 

We live with a daughter who finds fault almost everywhere, she doesn't like how people talk to her, while she thinks swearing is just fine and dandy. She doesn't follow directions causing things to go wrong often, and while we remind her following directions is important for future job employment, she reminds us that she will do what she likes and if her boss doesn't like it they can go *#@! themselves. By the way words like this are generally in every sentence she makes. 

I told you she is quite the character. She tells me almost daily that I should just die, or hopes I will die soon. She says this to her father and siblings as well. She is abusive to her siblings verbally and sometimes even physically. She thinks all old people should be killed off, that adults have to work for her respect. All the while she is sure to put people down until they just can't take anymore and move on to a better relationship. 

She is remote learning for her Senior Year and got a referral for responding to a teacher inappropriately. They couldn't really punish her too much because she isn't actually in school, so even though we stressed how much she should not do this she sees nothing wrong with what she did. She is now 18 and I can't wait for her to move out so we don't have to be stressed about what she might do on any given day. 

It is so hard to say this when as a mom you never really want your kids to move out, you want them little forever so you can protect them from everything, but as a parent you are to teach them how to survive when you are no longer around to pick up the pieces or help them get on the right path. It is heartbreaking to see a child or in this case young adult struggle so much. 

We took parenting classes and they worked for the most part with the other kids, but for some reason not with her. Somedays we are scared to be in the same home with her. She is really abusive, but not so much where we need to call the police although there have been a few close calls. 

Now with all of that being said, she can be good. I have seen her in public do the right things, helping an elderly person, being nice to children, and being polite, so I see the qualities we instilled in her. Things did get through to her. I just hope and pray they continue to grow inside of her. She is beautiful on the outside, just something on the inside, is inside out and twisted. 

I don't want to hear about we should have done this or that, we tried everything in our own upbringing and what the State sees as appropriate and nothing works. Now that she is an adult she has to start making those choices on her own. 

Until that day comes and maybe even after , the older children  and younger will continue to have those on the side glances, questions, and conversations on why is she so different. I know she will read this someday and I am OK with that. It doesn't' change the fact that I love her with all of my heart and soul and would give just about anything to keep her safe. As a parent I can only do so much with the rest being  up to God and her to deal with. 

My hopes is that someday she will be in a much better place mentally and can look back at her upbringing to find joy where we could fit it in. I want her to reach for her dreams with determination and confidence. I wish her well on her journey into adulthood. 

As a parent thinking these thoughts are hard much less sharing them with my readers, but I wanted those out there going through what we are going through to know you are not alone. Don't lose faith. Pray continually for your children. I know prayer works, it can just take years to actually see the results. Lovingly support their dreams along the way, while trying to instill in them best qualities you can in the short time you have to raise your child before they venture out into the world on their own. 

Thursday, April 28, 2016

Bullying Prevention


MarksvilleandMe reviews
Bullying Prevention
written by 
Dr. Wendy Craig, Dr. Debra Pepler, and Dr. Joanne Cummings


Bullying Prevention is a great resource for both younger and older parents of either the bully or those being bullied. I think this is a great book to get when your child is born so you can begin to ready them  and yourselves for what may lay ahead, or even stop them from becoming THE BULLY themselves. 

Lots of ideas, thoughts, and scenarios that show what you could deal with and how to get around the system to get your child help. Personally I think kids have just gotten out of hand, but with how fast things change it is hard for everyone to keep up with the changes we are all faced with. 

I find this a great resource that every library and school office should have available for parents.

Bullying Prevention can be found here. I also like that they have a fundraising option for schools or organizations that could benefit from this. 

What Quick Find Books has to say about Bullying Prevention.

Written by three top experts in the field, this research-based book provides parents with key information about the causes of bullying and how to prevent it, at all age and grade levels. This book, while written for parents,  has also been used by many teachers and school administrators to better understand and  deal with  bullying, including cyber-bullying. 
Topics covered include: Bullying: Myths, Facts and Solutions; Bullying in Preschool; Bullying in Elementary School; Adolescents and Bullying; Electronic or Cyber-bullying; Children Who Bully -- What to do at home; What Parents Can Do to Help a child Who Is Victimized; How Parents Can Work with the School; Bullying Prevention Through the Golden  Rule; and Resources for Parents.


You can find out more about Quick Find Books on:
as well as on
#Bullying

Disclosure:  MarksvilleandMe received one or more of the products mentioned above as part of a promotion with Tomoson and Quick Find Books. Regardless, MarksvilleandMe only recommends products or services we use personally and believe will be good for our readers. Some of the links in the article may be “affiliate links.” This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive compensation.  If you would like MarksvilleandMe to review a product or service please contact us at marksvilleandme@gmail.com. 

Thursday, March 10, 2016

Change Your Child`s Negative Behavior



MarksvilleandMe Reviews

Change Your Child`s Negative Behavior

written by
Nurit Levi


I have always found reading very calming and self help books along with parenting books a learning experience. Sure we might not take everything away from the book because our lives might not fit into that writer's mindset, but we often learn something new to try something that might just help out and make life better for us, our family, or friends. Making relationships stronger, helping our others and yourself to live a better everyday.

In Change Your Child`s Negative Behavior I am learning a few tricks if you will to help me better parent my ever head butting child into one that will see that being mean is not the way to treat others. Don't get me wrong when seeing her from the public's eye most of the time she will do the right thing, but she is growing and learning, and I want her to be well versed to stand up for herself without having someone point out her negatives.

I have had 6 children and helped raise many others and this one child of mine has given me a bit of a run for the money. Even though she reminds me everyday of her siblings she is still very different in temperament then they were. I love her to pieces but the negative behavior has to stop. This is where this book comes in to save the day, with advice, and tips to get us both through and strengthen our relationship so there is less argueing and more loving.

You can find Change Your Child`s Negative Behavior on Amazon.


In her series, A Calm and Peaceful Home, Nurit Levi has produced an essential set of guides for those responsible for children and teenagers, particularly when dealing with behavioural issues. Based upon her own experience - first as a parent and then as a coaching professional - she offers all-too-familiar examples, understanding, exceptional insight, moral support, practical advice and methods, useful tools and achievable assignments to help reduce disruptive behaviour in young people and replace it with positive cooperation. These straightforward guides will truly help you to deal with those situations that test you to the limit.

#promotion

Disclosure:  MarksvilleandMe received one or more of the products mentioned above as part of a promotion with Tomoson and Nurit Levi. Regardless, MarksvilleandMe only recommends products or services we use personally and believe will be good for our readers. Some of the links in the article may be “affiliate links.” This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive compensation.  If you would like MarksvilleandMe to review a product or service please contact us at marksvilleandme@gmail.com. 

Friday, November 27, 2015

2-in-1 Baby Car seat Canopy and Breastfeeding Cover



As a mother I love products that can do more than one thing which makes it easier to do things with little ones in tow.

This 2-in-1 Baby Car Seat Canopy and Breastfeeding Cover from Moms Labs is one of those items. It is a product that does both jobs very well, looks great, and is easy to use. This even comes with a bag to store it in when not in use.

I wish I had this years ago, when my older children were wee ones, but I am sure this will come in handy for either more children for us ahead, or even for my older children who are now at the age to have children. Actually I have 2 grand daughters and this would have been a great product to have for them for my daughter to use.


You can find this 2-in-1 Baby Car Seat Canopy and Breastfeeding Cover on Amazon.


What Moms Lab has to say about their product.

The Key to Protect Your Baby In Public With Confidence!
• How often you have had to buy different products designed to perform only single function and carrying them altogether has caused you massive discomfort?
• Mom‘s Lab presents a unique never seen before, designed by us for you product, which is patented. From now on you will have 1 product designed to perform 2 functions. It is light, convenient and we can assure you that you will use it on a daily basis. It took us great time to design and test the product in order to gain best results and today we are happy to share it with our Mom‘s Lab world.
• Carseat Canopy and Breastfeeding Nursing Cover 2-in-1!
• We made a thorough research to find out what do mommy‘s need and what would really help them to feel comfortable. As the result we have created a product that would meet their demands.
• This product will help you in various ways not only physically but emotionally as well because precisely this product will not allow you to get into uncomfortable situations in the public places.
• It is designed to perform 2 different functions, moreover it will easily fit in your bag.

BREASTFEEDING NURSING COVER
• Do you find nursing outside your home stressful or embarrassing? You do not have to worry anymore!
• Nursing Cover will help you feed your baby without fear of awkwardness or causing any uncomfortable moments. Take it with you wherever you go and you will be able to discretely and easily feed your baby in shops, caf├ęs or parks!
• Boned plastic neckline gives you direct eye contact with your beloved baby, always letting him or her see your smile!
• Nursing Cover folds down to a tiny size and comes with a handy storage bag with some extra space for pacifiers, pads or tissues. You can also use it as a light blanket for your baby when outdoors.

CARSEAT CANOPY
• How often do you watch weather forecast worrying how to properly protect your baby?
• Moms Lab Carseat Canopy will help you to protect your baby anywhere: inside and outside (shops, cafes, parks, cars with turned conditioners systems on).
• From now on you will be able to protect your baby from sunlight, wind, sleep irritating movement of surrounding people, bacteria in various facilities or field (e.g. doctors‘offices where common bacteria are spread).
• LAB Carseat canopy is a premium product made of easily washable 100% Cotton fabric and designed to be lightweight and breathable.
Stripes are integrated with silicone lane that protects stripes from sliding down. Position them at the level most comfortable for you and feel safe for your baby.
• Each angle of Carseat Cover has Velcro stripes that you can adjust to your Carseat and this way protect your baby from gusts of wind and possible exposure. All you have to do is attach stripe of Velcro to your Carseat and join it with the blanket.
• Cover is well designed to check upon your baby. Simply uncover bit of a blanket and you face of your precious will appear.

- MOM'S LAB Nursing Breastfeeding Cover and Carseat Canopy is a premium product made of easily washable 100% Cotton fabric and designed to be lightweight and breathable.
- Many breastfeeding and carseat canopies are concerned about exposing too much skin. We have designed this nursing cover exceptionally long and wide (75 x 110 cm) moreover we have chosen a fashionable polka dot pattern and deep colors that draw as less attention as possible. Our goal is to help you feel relaxed and enjoy every precious moment with your little angel :)

You can find out more about Moms Lab on:
#momslab

Disclosure:  MarksvilleandMe received one or more of the products mentioned above as part of a promotion with Tomoson and Moms Lab. Regardless, MarksvilleandMe only recommends products or services we use personally and believe will be good for our readers. Some of the links in the article may be “affiliate links.” This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive compensation.  If you would like MarksvilleandMe to review a product or service please contact us at marksvilleandme@gmail.com. 

Sunday, August 23, 2015

Getting ready for back to school part 1


I know many of my readers children have already made the trek back to school but here in Marksville we have 2 weeks before we start back which means getting the children and myself back into the groove of early bedtimes, early wake up calls, as well as making sure everything is ready for the first day of school and every day after that.

I used to be able to do this mom thing with my eyes closed but as I have aged and was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, on a bad day I forget just about everything, kind of go in a circle all day long in somewhat of a daze not getting anything accomplished.

So being prepared with a schedule. I am not fond of that word. The only time I ran a schedule was when I had a child care otherwise our lives have always been a bit of a hey lets do this and we do it no plan needed really. Now I need that schedule to help me get through a hour, day, week, month, season, year, I think you get the picture.

If you are finding that you need a little pick me up to your mornings why not try out Make over your mornings , you might be surprised by how much it can help you out.



Disclosure:  MarksvilleandMe received one or more of the products mentioned above as part of a promotion with Crystal Paine. Regardless, MarksvilleandMe only recommends products or services we use personally and believe will be good for our readers. Some of the links in the article may be “affiliate links.” This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive compensation.  If you would like MarksvilleandMe to review a product or service please contact us at marksvilleandme@gmail.com. 

Sunday, March 22, 2015

Mom's Journey: Practical Tips for Raising Kids




MarksvilleandMe reviews 
Mom's Journey: Practical Tips for Raising Kids
written by
Limor Friedman

As a parent you are always wondering if you are doing things right so reading other parenting books and magazines give us insight on ideas we can try as well as those to stay clear from. With Mom's Journey: Practical Tips for Raising Kids it is no different, this book was written by a mom for other parents, she wanted to share what worked and didn't work for her while raising her children.

I can't lie and say I agreed with all of her tactics but she does raise valid points on other issues, and some that we have already implemented in our years of raising children, on our own. You pick what will work for your family and child. No one but you as the parent can make the decision on what is right or wrong in raising your children. Everyone has their own way of doing things even if some are just like other parents out there.

As parents we are to love unconditionally and raise our children to be able to take care of themselves one day. It doesn't happen over night but over a lifetime of being a parent.

You can purchase on Amazon

 #parenting

Disclosure:  MarksvilleandMe received one or more of the products mentioned above as part of a promotion using Tomoson.com. Regardless, MarksvilleandMe only recommends products or services we use personally and believe will be good for our readers. Some of the links in the article may be “affiliate links.” This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive compensation.  If you would like MarksvilleandMe to review a product or service please contact us at marksvilleandme@gmail.com.